Author: Edward

The Fear of Failure

The Fear of Failure

Everyone Is on a Long and Forlorn Search for Goals

The most common way I’ve heard of the “plan to win” is by setting goals.

Not necessarily to win, but to meet them.

We set them.

We set them, and then we usually end up failing.

And we usually end up not meeting them.

The problem I have is that we don’t realize that we’re setting goals the wrong way.

I’m talking about the “goal” of beating your neighbor.

I’ve been guilty of this.

I know it wasn’t me, and I’m a very nice guy, but I have to wonder:

“Was there an “I have no idea what that is” or “I just don’t know how to do this” part of my motivation?

I think that’s where it comes from.

Do you know what my worst fear is?

I don’t think I’m allowed to tell you…

I’m scared of getting fired or failing at something.

That was the fear that set me on the path to failure.

I don’t know why.

Maybe it’s because I do all those things. Maybe it’s because I’m a workaholic.

No, I think there’s something missing from that reasoning.

I think what I’m afraid of isn’t failing.

I’m afraid of falling short of my goals.

I’m afraid of standing where I stand and saying, “I failed, that was the best I could do, so I guess that’s it”.

I’m afraid that some day, I’ll be standing where I stand and I’ll realize I only beat myself up.

Some day, I’ll realize that I beat myself up.

And I’ll look down and I’ll say to myself, “Well, if I’d put in the little bit of work I needed to do, then I’d be where I am right now”.

I think that’s why we set those goals.

We need a way of making a plan in life that we’ll feel confident, and at peace, about as we approach the goal.


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